kicked by little feet

So my 3 year old jumps into bed with me at 6something in morning.  The plan was to “sleep in” to 8, because my 8 year old’s soccer game was later than usual.  So Joel starts kicking, and pushing on me.  It’s in just the right interval that I’m not quite back to sleep, but I’m still awake.  I’m not awake enough to have him move, or move him back to his bed.  Finally he stops, but by then I’m awake but am mentally unable to get out of bed.  Then the alarm goes off.

The boys get ready, eat breakfast, and they’re playing well together.  Joel was very high maintenance during breakfast.  Now he wants to play Battleship. The complicated kind.  Not the simple one from my childhood that resembles two laptops facing off.  No, there’s assembly required for the new one.  I don’t want to play.  I just don’t.  I don’t want to set this thing up, play for two or three turns and have him want to do something else.

This is a test of my manhood.  A test of my fatherhood. A test of self control.  What I really want to do is vaporize him with my eyes.  Do I have the strength to contain myself?

I did. I do.  A quick prayer.

We set up Battleship. Graeme is helping little brother. We play a turn each. Then Joel knocks the game off the coffee table.  Did I say he’s 3?

Breath.

I said a longer prayer this time.

I open My eyes and look at the clock.  It’s time to go to Graeme’s game.

These days or seasons never come in convenient timing. We’re never rested or prepared.  Lets face it, this one was trivial.  It really didn’t feel trivial at the time.  Its a reminder to me that we have to respond to people rather than react.  Breath, pray, then respond to life experiences.

Switching perspectives: How many times to we change our mind on God.  How many times have we committed to something, then bailed.

The most important thing in God’s eyes, and our sons and daughters, is being willing to play.  Making things that are important to them worthy of your time.  Loving even though you know the outcome.  And the outcome means more out-pouring for you and anything in return.

  “Yes Joel, I’ll play Battleship with you.”

Newish Barna findings on Young Christians

I appreciate the Barna Group.  I enjoy sociology and one of my majors in college was from the department.  Although I don’t like doing the technical of research myself I do enjoy learning from those who do.  Here’s an article from the Barna Group that a friend shared with me.  It’s about Young Christians and what they think about the church.  It really just put numbers to many of the stories that young people have shared with me.  For those of you that like numbers, this is helpful too.  Keep moving forward church.

 

HT: Ryan Carrell

A Simple Explanation of a Missional Church +

As soon as I wrote the title I immediately wanted to change it.  I’ll get back to that after you watch the video.

A simple and creative explanation that I’d say most churches in the US need to hear/understand/walk into.

There was one thing that jumped out at me the most, and distracted me while I was watching.  The symbol of the church, the sketch of the church building.  [You can probably see this one is going. ]  Honestly, this video was probably made to teach people in a specific context a new direction or pose new questions.  In order to explain why they’re making changes, etc.  Please church, continue in that work!

Many though would see missional church at odds with institutional church.  For some it’s an oxymoron. I’m not saying that here.  Some would say “I’d rather do something different than what I’ve done.”  Here’s where I’m still landing: We’re now currently seeing the toddlerhood of a third way of church.  Or the opportunity to renew or legitimize the oldest form of church.  Which of course is micro-organic-entraperniral-churches or Neo-Acts church.  Please allow me the dashes, I don’t know how else to describe it.  The conundrum in the naming personifies it’s DNA and character.  It’s the embodiment of Jesus in all cultures, everywhere in the world.  It will take on all kinds of forms, look and “feel” different all the different places it exists.  So there’s no simple explanation.

So to me, missional church is where we all should be.  Serving and loving the people in our lives that God has put there.

So I passed this on to be helpful.  My hope is that we can remember that we’re all in the family still.  We may not agree on the style, structures, places and times, but we’re all still trying to do the same thing.  So when I move officially out of our Modern model I’ll covet the prayers of my brothers and sisters that I’ve “left.”

HT: Lloyd

XZ Berlin

Thanks to my friend Lloyd over at ChOG Blog, I think I’ve found some kindred spirits.  So far I absolutely love what I see on xzberlin.com and their FB page.  I was really beginning to think that I would end up being the first ChOGer to do “alt-church.”  [Its more like Neo-Acts church I guess, not sure.]  Anyway, I’m excited to start a conversation with them.  So to those of you out there that are leaning to new forms of church, you’re not alone.  It was silly of me to think there wouldn’t be someone to swap stories with.  If we spread the word, I bet we’ll find more of us around than we thought.  So comment, copy this or connect me to someone you know that want’s to do church different than we have in the past.

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Espro Pres, French Press without the gunk

Thanks to Wired’s Gaget Lab I just came across this new French Press by Espro.  It has an extra filter that will keep most of the goo out of you brew.  To top it off the vessel is double-walled steal to keep the coffee hot for a while.  If you’re looking to upgrade your French Press [ cafetiére ] give this a look.  It’s not a Bodum from Target.  Think of of it as a cross between a micro-filtered press and a carafe.  Enjoy.

Review: Missional Map-Making

I had this book on my bookshelf for over a year before I cracked it open.  I regret that.  This is a must read for pastors. I don’t care if you’re 99 and a Hospice patient, well ok.  Anyway, Pastors, you should read this book!  If you are involved with leadership in the church, you should read it.  Area administrators, read this book.  If you’ve got a small church, read this book.  If you’ve got a large church, read this book.  Even if you’re planting a church and starting fresh, read this book.  Have I driven my point home yet?  Hey guy at the bus stop.  Ya you.  Here, I’ve got a book for you to read. Moving on.

Here’s why I think you should read this book:   Finally there’s a book that lands on some answers to move forward into the near future in our ministries.  Many books have made some suggestions about what’s going on.  Some have done well at looking back, but given only hints to what the future might need to look like in our churches.  Now I’m going to tell you why I think so.

The book is pretty simple and straightforward.  Most of this book has things in it I have thought of in the last 11 years.  Most of  the random ideas, or thoughts about how church should be.  Many, many conversations with other pastors in past 11 years have crawled onto these pages.   Some of these ideas I’ve already done.  So for me this book is validation.  Validation from someone that has been around the ministry block a few more times and me.  Someone that’s old enough to be my father.  So this is aged and seasoned experience and reflection.  It’s wise, ear to the ground and to the sky listening.  Now, to the cliff notes.

The premise of the book is about our paradigms.  The unspoken things we know, believe about, and discern the world around us.  Without deep reflection its hard to know what our paradigms are.  Maps tell us about the places we live or how to navigate the landscape.  If the landscape has changed and we’re using old maps, we won’t be able to get where we want to.  You’ll find that the map you picked up at the Michigan Welcome Center printed in 2011 is much more helpful than the one sketched by Father Marquette and French-Canadian Explorers in 1673.  Church, lets examen ourselves with the Spirits help a take a long hard look at our maps.

We know culture has taken a turn, we know that the landscape has changed.  Now, many of us in the church admit that we haven’t turned with culture.  When I first was exploring the cultural shift we’re in 11 years ago, not many people would admit that we needed to change in the church at all.  The world was just more sinful than it had been.  More people had turned away from their upbringing.  It was more the World’s fault.  Honestly I was hearing more blaming from pastors than acknowledgement.  Now I’m seeing more pastors understanding the uppehval, but still shell-schocked about what to make of it.

The church needs to allow people to make new inventory of the landscape.  The problem is that the shift is still happening.  The dust has not settled.  It’s like and earthquake, with aftershocks and a tsunami.  The ground shifts and settles, shifts and settles.  Church, set free your pioneers.  Not everyone is Christopher Columbus, Meriwether Lewis and William Clark, or Neil Armstrong.

Roxburgh lays the book out in 2 parts.  Part 1: When Maps No Longer Work, and Part 2: The Map-Making Process.  Pretty simple, straight forward things.  Part 1 looks back and brings us up to speed, and explains why we’re where we are today.  Part 2 looks and directs to the future.

Part 2 is hard ward.  Not because its that complex.  We’ve made the world, and the way we do church complex.  The hard work will be found in the stillness.  In the closing your mouth, and using your ears.  Drowning out the voices, and 50+ years of conferences and seminars telling you to stand up and lead.  Jesus turned the world upside down, did he not?  Lets follow his lead.  Listen to what God it doing in, through, and with your people.  This takes time to germinate.

Less is more.  Truly.  The author suggests that we reclaim disciplines of prayer, and scriptural discernment.  Things that made the church dynamic in the past. Things that we of the Modern Era have cast aside or forgotten.  Things that helped the ranks of Christ-followers to swell by prolific proportions.  I’m not suggesting that we don’t pray in the church, or that God doesn’t here us.  I’m just saying we’ve made things in the church clean, clear and efficient that have no business being.  Would you describe your marriage or your relationship with your best friend like that?  [If you do, you're sick.]  This isn’t complex.  God wants your heart.  It takes a long time to truly and deeply give yourself away to someone.  Lets give our hearts away to the Father, and each other.  Give yourself away and you’ll find the nature of God and your intended nature.  Less is more.

I am a make maker. I know some of you that are reading this are thinking “finally he sees it, I’ve known for a while now.”  This became clearer as I read this book.  Although I’ve done little to help the church see the new maps I’ve compiled.  Again, here comes my Moses Complex coming back. ["Lord, isn't someone more qualified for this job?"  I need to schedule an appointment with Stewart Smalley.]

To wrap it up:  Get this book.  Read it, reflect on it, pray.  Then share it with a friend who needs it.  If we center our leadership in relationship and listening again the church will change.   May you have the strength to look in the mirror, stillness to hear the voice of God in the silence and courage to lead into a new world.  Peace.

homemade biscuits and gravy

In our continuing search for better tasting food I whipped up some homemade biscuits and gravy. Delicious!

I found a recipe and went for it. I have to say, I’ve found something really close to the biscuits my Grandma used to make. I think the only thing that would make them better would be the wood-electric stove she had.

Here’s the recipes I used.

Biscuits:  http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/southern-style-chocolate-gravy/detail.aspx

Gravy:  http://allrecipes.com/recipe/bills-sausage-gravy/detail.aspx

We only slightly tweaked these. We used skim milk and didn’t use maple sausage. Oh, Jen used a kids cup from Ikea to cut the biscuits.  That way we didn’t have to dig up an cookie cutters.

You won’t ever buy biscuits in a tube again!

Next up, chocolate gravy!